If your lover/fiance/ spouse tells you he/she will Not marry you unless you have a child with them, what will you do????
what if your "other" goes to someone else to produce a child If you said NO?? who is at fault?
How far out will you Go to Please your Lover? HOW IMPORTANT IS A CHILD TO COME INTO YOUR LIFE ONLY TO KEEP PEACE or STABILITY IN a RELATIONSHIP???
Would u produce a child to please your "OTHER"?
If someone is in a relationship with a person who is placing these types of stipulations, then maybe they're with the wrong person. No one can "make" you want something you don't. But I would be surprised that the relationship got that far without discussing "kids". Clearly a person who doesn't want kids shouldn't be with someone who's ultimate goal is to have kids. Its fine to not want children and its fine to want them, just make sure you get with a person who wants what you want. I don't think ppl should force anything on their mate, relationships should be smooth and not forceful. And personally I don't believe a child will make anything more stable in a relationship, if the relationship is rocky, a child can most likely complicate the matter. So....be careful!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Steph! I personally am in between...I've never really wanted kids but I'm not absolutely opposed (just mostly opposed, like 90% LOL). At any rate, I have dated people in the past that I knew wanted kids and were adamant about it so I knew that would eventually be an issue. I can't see me changing my mind just because someone threatened to leave me or what have you. I There was also someone interested me who wanted children and he knew I didn't so we never even dated- most women would feel slighted but I respected him for keeping it 100. I feel like GOD knows how I feel and if I will change my mind or not, so He's not going to send me someone I'd be in conflict with about this issue.
ReplyDeleteGreat Points....BUT!!! Remember This is someone You Are Deeply Involved With. Not just A few MOnths Into The Relationship. You Already doing things that are making the "Other" Happy (Cooking,lending, helping hand etc) But now its A Crossroads where Your Partner is Saying "this is Something that is Dear To Me" You telling me you would Up And Leave? Even though you not ready for a Child or May not even want one, But Your Partner Does?
ReplyDeleteSteph Couldnt have said it any better when she Stated "I would be surprised that the relationship got that far without discussing "kids".">>TRUE INDEED... But Someone could have changed their Mind or Maybe Bought a New Home etc...
SO Adyre, With All the Love and Dedicatyion for Him, You wouldnt do it For Him, knowing that He would for you? Even though you know He is Happy with you?